The only routine that existed in my home growing up was dinner each night and church every Sunday. There were no checklists on the refrigerator. I had no fixed bedtime. I didn’t have a practice routine. I was never told to do my homework.
The only departure from this lack of routine was in the mornings. Even in the summertime when my friends would be sleeping in till 9 or 10am, my dad would open the door of my bedroom at 6 am and blare out reveille as if he were a trumpet player. To this day, I cannot sleep past 6am.
For many years, I felt that discipline, habit and routine was the enemy of fun and creativity.
The fact that I became a strong violin player was not at all due to discipline. It was due to the fact that I was surrounded by music and could have not escaped it if I wanted. It was the ecosystem that I grew up in.
Because fewer than 5% of adults play any music in the U.S., most kids will not be growing up in a musical environment.
I get to work with many families and see firsthand how parents run the spectrum on establishing routines like practicing violin.
Not surprisingly, I totally relate to the kids that don’t have a parent enforcing a practice routine. But I have also come to appreciate how the deck is stacked against these students.
Kids want to feel successful in what they do — school, sports, music. When they don’t see progress, they lose motivation.
Some parents have a natural affinity for routine and discipline. They have figured out systems that make things happen. I have come to see this proclivity for routine as a strong indicator for how quickly a student will progress through the levels in violin lessons. And I have seen plenty of damage that comes from too much discipline and routine.
The power of routine and habits and daily practices cannot be overstated. Fortunately for those of us that are not naturally creatures of habit, a little can go a long way.