When I was young, I remember the chasm that existed between the music I played and the music I listened to.
Rarely did any of my orchestra friends ever talk about the newest classical album that just came out. Never did I climb into a car with another violinist and hear a concerto over the stereo.
It is not that we disliked the music, but most of us simply didn’t really listen to it when on our own. Most of us were moved by other styles and the desire to be current and part of our cohort.
Trait #2 of life-long violinists: We listen to the music that we play.
As adults, my violin-playing friends that play classical — as professionals or in community orchestras — listen to classical music. And my violin-playing friends that play Irish listen to Irish. Jazz players listen to jazz. And so forth.
Somewhere along the way, adolescent musicians who learn one style of music but listen to another style become adults who gravitate towards their listening tastes.
For adolescents who enjoyed listening to and playing classical music, that is not a problem. They carried on listening and playing.
In the long run, musical tastes always win. We listen to what moves us.
Whether the violin gets played when we grow older is determined by whether the adult violinist has the skills and confidence to play that music.